Alright Ladies…does online dating have to be “find a husband.com”  It seems if you are subscribing to an online dating website, you MUST be looking for a husband.   I am NOT.  I would just like to go out on a date…an adult evening.  Is that too much to ask?

I was curious so I checked out some websites.  Oh my goodness….I realize I am proactive…but the conversations some of these men wanted to have with me…all I could be was reactive  It seems technology gives a man the courage to say about anything (and expect a reply).

I realize with the fast pace world we live in its hard to find the right person.  Or the time to even look for the right person. So here are some rules to online dating. I am making this up but I truly believe if we all add a rule…we might find the right companion.

1 rule – I would not even consider dating someone from work…that could end badly. Always be aware if they work in the same company.

2 rule – If there is no picture…then what is he/she hiding?  Be true to yourself.

3 rule – If it sounds fake…it probably is.

4 rule – Really look closely at the picture it could be 20 years old (lol, I honestly saw this online).  The tight short shorts on the man gave it away.

5 rule – If he/she doesn’t ask anything about you but wants to meet you rather quickly…odds are its not for a relationship.

6 rule – Does he/she talk about himself all the time?  Not a good sign on any level.

Okay…now its your turn.  Lets put an Online Rules of Wisdom together for dating.

Thanks for keeping up with my blog.  I’m sorry its been so long since my last entry.

I woke up this morning with a thought weighing heavy on my mind.  Being proactive or reactive is not based on gender or personality.  My proactive actions especially on BIG decisions has been based upon FAITH.  I have not made any big decision in my life without prayer.  I must give credit where credit is due.  My confidence to move forward on any big decision comes from my strong belief that God is always in control. I can do all things through him and only him.  FAITH allows me to be PROACTIVE.

Is the way we handle problems and situations based upon gender or personality? 

In recent days, I have noticed that I handle stress and challenges quite differently than my boyfriend or ex-husband.  My ex-husband  over analyzes situations.  He considers worse case scenarios, and in the end is unable to make any decision.  My boyfriend talks and talks and talks, but is unable to act.  Both end up reacting to life instead of living their lives and choosing their own paths.

I am not built to over analyze, but to act.  I am definitely proactive rather than reactive.  My recent decision to downsize (read Life Changing for details) was quick.  I was struggling financially but I knew I had to secure my families future.  A decision had to be made and fast.  I did not consult with anyone, but started to look for an apartment that would meet my families needs. 

The boyfriend (who no longer lives with me) and my ex-husband were against the idea.  They wanted me to wait for a great “river card.”  I wasn’t about to gamble my family’s future. 

It was the best decision.  I am in control of my finances, family and life.  Not all of my decisions end up for the best, but they are my choices in life. 

I think woman are more prone to act rather than react.  Or it could be based primarily on personality. What are your thought?

What happened?  I am amazed at how technology seems to have empowered kids to say anything!  What happened to the saying, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”  I guess that rule doesn’t apply with texting. 

I thought life was difficult enough being a teenager…discovery who you are and what you want to be.  

Now it seems anyone has the right to tell you ”who they think you are…true or untrue”…..Sad…Is this progress?

Well I haven’t posted comments in awhile…Life has been changing all around me.  As a single mother with a new job that doesn’t make quite as much as the OLD job.  I had to make the dreaded decision to DOWNSIZE.   House to Apartment…it was heartbreaking but I am making the best out of it.  I cried for three days, but then put on the “Smile” that says, “Everything will be alright.” and got to work.  

What do moms worry about the most in a change situation?  The children…and mine are teenagers so it is always DRAMA.  To my surprise they understood and supported the move.  They were also tired of the financial struggles.  I have always been honest with my kids about the finances.  Many friends thought children should be sheltered from the financial burdens parents face, but I have always thought they should be aware.  That hasn’t stopped them from asking for things or from being a kid, but it has made them realize limits and choices.   

I actually think life is better now.  The family is growing closer in a smaller living space.  I told my teenage girls, who like to yell at each other, we could be evicted if they scream at one another too much.    Talk about peace and quiet

I am chosing to be Pollyanna, and find the good in everything.

Sometimes my world is just too busy! I feel I have a career in the circus since I juggle life so well. This blog has been built to discuss and vent the everyday challenges mother’s face.